50 Liberating Relationship ‘Rules’ for Feminists to Live By
It can be tricky for feminists to navigate their casual and serious personal relationships, given that we aren't typically fans of being told what to do — especially. Dating is a minefield at the best of times, but there's trying not to be awkward or do weird, and then there's the added complications of being a feminist. So, I definitely wouldn't date a guy who doesn't proudly call himself a To me, men who claim to be feminists should be willing to stand right.
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After realizing that a great deal of the male population on dating sites makes no effort to appear normal or respectful of boundaries, I started saving screenshots of conversations. Aside from everyday life, online dating has been a constant reminder of how suffocatingly confining gender roles are and how immobilizing male entitlement renders me in the dating game.
I was a feminist a long time before I decided to jump into the man-infested waters of love and sex, but feel myself shying away from confronting the roles my date and I perform. However, when it comes to conversation and behavior, the fiery feminist takes a backseat to the alluring, docile woman most men expect me to be.
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I never message a guy first. I rarely initiate sex and when I do, I feel confused about how it was perceived afterwards. I let the male gaze influence my date outfits. I hide my perverted humor, my rambunctious laugh, and my strong opinions until around the third date mark. Instead, I giggle and blush wildly for days straight. I obsessively look at flowcharts like this one: I act submissive and shy away from taking charge, inside and outside the bedroom.
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The status quo dictates the following line of logic: After a while, it gets tiring trying to explain my position to people who choose to disrespect it.
It's not that I mind people critiquing feminism, because they're right to consider all its historical baggage, but having to constantly justify my point of view gets exhausting, so I just don't — especially since the majority of the guys I've come across are convinced that I am using this as an excuse to be difficult and unnecessary.
I am sure " NotAllMen", but I would be lying if I said I've met a stream of men in the past few years who really understand the whole feminist thing.
There are very few who really get it and don't just pretend to, in the hopes that it will get them laid or give the impression of being "woke". The woke ones are especially quick to dismiss the feminist agenda because, to them, the race thing being black and all trumps any gender issues. All I am saying is that it's hard enough being a woman, without identifying with the feminist or womanist movements.
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Doing so unleashes a whole other series of complications. I get that apparently men can be feminist, but for me, unless you've lived the tiring experience of being the mythical "difficult woman", you can't begin to understand what women go through.
For me, the best a man can do is empathise, fight for women's rights and issues, and be allies of the movement for lack of a better word. The reality is that the men who identify with the feminist movement get celebrated as the cream of the crop — meanwhile, the women get butchered for it.
Being a feminist as a man is a nice-to-have; for me it's a necessity.
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Being a feminist man most likely doesn't drastically affect your dating life as much as it does for women in the same position. Feminist men don't get accused of being men haters, but we do. Nobody accuses them of trying to be women just by virtue of standing up for women's rights, but feminist women are called out all the time for "trying to be a man".
This is what some men call it when you refuse to be silenced and rendered invisible. So I imagine a feminist man's dating experience is quite different to mine, but I could be wrong. Dating for me feels like a challenge I haven't yet found my way around, and I will be the first to admit that I am an acquired taste — and that's okay.Girl at a Bar - SNL
I generally don't feel inclined to be seen as nice or likable, so I have very few friends. I am set in my feminist ways, so I can't be changed or "tamed". I am done arguing and explaining to men who have no desire to hear, nor understand, where I come from. I've been single long enough to be comfortable with my own company, so I am not too worried about being seen as "undatable".