Polyamory in the News: "Love me two (or more) times"
Joreth Innkeeper, is currently writing a book with her ex on how to break up . While polyamorous relationships where everyone in the relationship is dating. Joreth Innkeeper. Joreth Innkeeper polyrolemodels: “ How long have you been practicing polyamory? The newest "Adventures in Dating" diary entry. See Tweets about #polyamory on Twitter. I'm team #Polyamory to be honest. . I'm dating people that are unreal levels of attractive and I don't even know how.
To me, metamours are the benefit to being poly, as opposed to being monogamous or some other form of non-monogamy. I mean, multiple partners is great and all, but the metamours make polyamory worth it.
What aspect of polyamory do you excel at? Having a now-extensive history with successful metamour relationships also helps with that. Seeing metamours as opportunities makes it easy to feel compersion. What aspect of polyamory do you struggle with? I have a very chaotic schedule due to my career as a freelance entertainment technician, which also affects my finances.
Memories in my head are connected by events, not by chronological order. And I Google calendar the hell out of my life. We communicate our preferences, our history, our sexual statuses, our risk profiles, our concerns, our needs, our boundaries, our sexual education, and our test results. Everyone has their own practices, like fluid bonding or trading test results or barrier use or some combination thereof, and some of those practices are different with different partners. We all each make our own decisions within context, and the only way we can safely do that is because we communicate.
It turns out that having multiple partners whose risk profile is known is actually statistically safer than having only one partner whose risk profile is unknown.
So honest, transparent communication is the safest thing we can do to protect each other and ourselves. One was dating people who wanted to impose rules over my behaviour with my other partners in order to feel safe and allowing them to do so.
This was horribly damaging to one of my long-term relationships and it left us both feeling disposable and powerless within our relationship with each other.
The other was dating people who hid their emotional fears behind STD Respectability. This means that they had emotional fears and insecurities, but instead of facing them and dealing with them, they claimed a fear of STDs to justify an inconsistent imposition of rules and extremely insensitive treatment of certain individuals in my network.
The way I rebounded from these two mistakes is that I stopped dating people who did those things, and I hope to avoid dating people who do these things in the future. I never again want to give someone more power over a relationship than the people in that relationship have for their own relationship.
The third terrible mistake was dating someone who was an abuser, and enabling that abuse because I did not recognize the signs of abuse and I did not support the victims. I totally fell for the false story that the abuser was the victim. What self-identities are important to you? How do you feel like being polyamorous intersects with or affects these identities? This is such a large question!
I have so many different self-identities that are important to me, and which ones are taking center stage at any given time depends on the context.
The labels I use for myself most often are: I tried to summarize what each of these labels mean to me, because most people have different ideas of what these labels mean, but as I have written multiple blog posts on each label alone, I was unable to succincly explain.
What all of these labels have in common is that they all stem from the same two sources - skepticism and autonomy. I am a naturally curious person and I seek out knowledge. Conference organizers Kate Kincaid and Sara Bachmann-Williams had recruited 8 or 10 committed, long-term volunteers from the Tucson and Phoenix poly and kink communities, and the size of the event seems to have been due to word of mouth. Heavy involvement by the local community seems to make the difference for the success of a polycon.
Conference organizers in other cities, including Atlanta's Billy Holder and the Relationship Equality Foundationmentored the organizers and vetted their hotel contract. In turn, says Kate, she and Sara will help advise anyone who wants to start a hotel polycon in their own city write to southwestlovefest AT gmail. They hope to enlarge Southwest Love Fest for March 29—31, Boise, Idaho Now in its third year, "RelateCon provides a unique and supportive gathering place for polyamorous people to connect as a community through educational workshops, social spaces, and opportunities for networking.
The core value of this conference is to empower healthy relationships across a myriad of configurations.
The first RelateCon in drew about people, impressive for a first event, and in it nearly sold out. Wrote Ginger Polynirvana in"We are able to offer a simultaneous Professional track at RelateCon, which will offer CEUs to a wide variety of disciplines such as lawyers, social workers, counselors, and teachers.
Here's the local alternative weekly paper's writeup that year. March 29—31, Portland, Oregon Downtown Convention Center Sex-Positive Portland will host the city's fourth annual "polyamory and open relationship symposium and celebration.
From the description: Come learn, play, and explore your edges. Learn from our experienced and inspiring presenters sharing knowledge, tips, and wisdom while we celebrate a passion for loving more. Bring your friends and extended poly family, meet new friends and lovers, find your people!
Workshops will be in a variety of formats ranging from lecture and discussion to experiential and embodied activities in dyads, triads and more. We will also offer lunchtime discussion panels and affinity groups to choose from each day to deepen our knowledge and connections with each other.
We hold multiple workshops on various relationship building topics such as effective communication, time management and relationships, multifamily households, community parenting, and more. As in Philly, talks, workshops, socializing, sharing, party and fun. Now offering a CEU track for professional therapists.
May 4—5, San Francisco, CA "Are you new to polyamory and exploring the many possible configurations, or been practicing honest non-monogamy for decades? Building on 's inaugural worldwide event in Vancouver BC and last year's event in Seattle, in association with Facebook's largest and most vibrant solo polyamory discussion group, this is your opportunity to meet other solo non-monogamous people and share real life experiences!
From the announcement of the event: Spring dates to be announced Berkeley, CA From the event: This event will be devoted to presentations of scientific and academic research related to polyamory, open relationships, swinging, other forms of consensual nonmonogamy and related subjects.
The conference does not take a position on whether any particular type or style of relationship is healthy or pathological. The intention of the event is explore the subject in as objective and unbiased a manner as possible. Presentations will cover various topics that offer some possible progress to a deeper and more complete understanding of the phenomenon of consensual nonmonogamy.
The events aim to build, over five days, an enduring network of like-minded people who don't necessarily fall out of touch as happens after most events. It is modeled on the U. OpenCon with a self-generated "unconference" program.
The basic plan is to combine workshops with plenty of opportunities for relaxing and socialising.
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Check the what will happen page for details on the programme as it develops. Here are an account of the conference and more about past years. The working language is English. This event sells out far in advance. Spring date to be announced Chicago, IL This one-day event happened for the first time inwith big help from the Relationship Equality Foundation.
It sold out in advance. Here was the schedule and speakers list. Kid-friendly; ask about the kids' program. I've been to most APWs since the first in see my writeup from and gave the closing keynote talk in Total attendance in was over not all present at any one time.
On opening night at least half the crowd raised their hands when asked "Who's here for the first time? The organizers say the gatherings are "a platform for networking and for the exchange of experiences and practical knowhow. In past years the meetings have sold out within days of being announced. July 20, Columbus, Ohio This is a one-day event by the folks who throw the big Beyond The Love convention in the fall. Attendees get to propose, vote on, and run sessions themselves. Request topics and workshops on issues that you want to hear about, or present something — a facilitated discussion, a workshop on a specific skill, or a lecture on a topic you are familiar with.
Advantages of the unconference format include: The relationships built during an unconference often continue well past the event. Poliamor, Anarquia Relacional, Xarxes Afectives, etc. Join us for a weekend of community building as we learn from each other via informal discussions, socializing, and fun.
Come meet fellow like-minded poly people around the large communal bonfire; take part in various relationship building and strengthening discussions; share your poly knowledge and experiences over wine and cheese.
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Camper hookups available, dogs welcome. The program for Network for a New Culture explores building intimate sustainable community through practices of curiosity, transparency, self-exploration, and self-responsibility. About 70 to 90 people attend.
Vegetarian group meals with work sharing; cabins and campsites in the woods no vehicle hookups ; bathhouse with sinks and hot showers. Some indoor accommodations are available onsite. Conditions are rustic, but a camp-owned motel is 3 miles away. Kids welcome; inquire early in advance about kids' program. Here's a beautiful, and accurate, promo video I'm in it. July 11—13, Dallas, TX A conference on ethical non-monogamy that centers black voices. Writes co-organizer Ruby Johnson, "PolyDallas Millennium is a sex-positive sexual health symposium that is a platform for marginalized and oppressed groups.
We provide education on ethical non-monogamous relationships in an oppressive and stigmatizing society. Educators, activists, and community leaders that are representative of the attendees engage the audience in shared language and experiences.
PolyDallas Millennium is a symposium that has space and joy for all communities and all ways of being. I was there in with about other registrants, the largest turnout in the conference's four years.
Excellent program, excellent and thought-provoking speakers, and a very welcoming vibe toward all. It ran all day and into the night. The schedule for was already seeking speakers and volunteers for